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a Celebrated Life

“Forever did not mean what it once had. Forever was what changed inevitably over time.” – Amy Tan

The art of living begins with the act of letting go. As grief would have it – it turned my world upside down and inside out. From my belief system to the simple routines of life. You can forget emotional stability, it no longer exists. Even your environment has taken new shape. Comfort and familiarity have vanished – everything has been changed forever, as you knew it.

Grief is a difficult journey, and you find yourself and your world completely out of balance.

Sometimes, we can go to far to normalize grief, and it’s experiences. While we’ll never forget, and we’ll always grieve the loss of your loved one. Grief is a process of movement, a progression in healing. Learning to re-create a sense of balance is essential to our emotional, spiritual and physical health.

… I didn’t always see grieving as a way to healing.

It’s difficult to hear, let alone believe that one day your heart will know joy again, when you are in the middle of the worst of it. Admittedly, I was the one who was perfectly content to hang out in my grief – forever!

Grieving is a unique journey situated in a very universal context. And there is no timetable, and certainly no right or wrong way to grieve. Be kind to yourself, let your own heart guide you – don’t allow anyone to rush you or hurry you along with their expectations. Let your own heart be what guides you …

My children and I gathered on Sunday, what would have been a time to celebrate a Birthday and a Dad’s Day. We really haven’t assembled – formally, since David’s death, 3 years ago. And while we didn’t celebrate Father’s Day – per say, it was a time to celebrate the gift of healing. I celebrated my children, honored to be a part of this journey with each of them. Incredibly blessed by their resiliency of both heart and the human spirit.

My husband, a remarkable man, believed every day held the possibility of unlimited opportunity, he lived each day in its fullness and with purpose. His children have honored his legacy, become his living legacy of hope and new life.

Children learn what they live …

If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilt.
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself,
If a child lives with acceptance, he learns to find love in the world.
– Doothy Law Notte